I sometimes wonder why I make some of the decisions I do. At times, I dwell on it a bit too much and get caught up in the “what if” game. Eckhart Tolle’ has a nice name for the “what if” game. He calls them mental phantoms.
A mental phantom is the process of second-guessing or “what if’ing” in hopes of finding a different answer or experiencing a different outcome. No matter how much we replay a past event or dwell on a so-called future event, we cannot change it, because the situation does not really exist. All we really have is this present moment. It is not five minutes ago or five minutes from now. It is right now, as I am typing these very words. Here is what I have learned about second-guessing some of my decisions. Dancing with mental phantoms just leaves me frustrated and makes my head hurt. Rather than playing the what if game, play what is.
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