Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Run Away


Exit Strategy


We all end up in awkward and sometimes unhealthy, on all levels, situations.  It can be a conversation that you really do not want to have, or something or someone that really causes you consternation and uneasiness.  Your inner voice is screaming at you to get out while you can, but we sometimes tend to not listen or freeze up.  That’s where an exit strategy comes in to play. 

For me, I see one of the better exit strategies as another level of boundaries.  If someone is quizzing me up about a topic I do not want to discuss at that time, it is up to me to say, “Can we talk about this later, or I’m not in a position to talk about this subject right now.”  It is very common for me to say, “I need to go and leave a situation.”  It is not being rude.  I see it more as self-preservation.  If I stay in the situation, I continue to be uncomfortable and at some point, the others around me will feel it.  I’ve also learned staying in an uncomfortable situation will shift me to a defensive position.  For whatever reasons, we sometimes get hung up thinking we need to explain ourselves.  We don’t.  As a courtesy, we can say we are leaving, but there is no rule that says you have to explain yourself as to why. 

Do you find yourself in less than thrilling situations more times than not?  Check your Exit Strategy.

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