Wrong Place Wrong Time

At some point in life, everyone attempts to build or have a relationship with someone that well how can I say it other than they are the wrong one or in the wrong place in your life.  A few years ago, I dated someone and knew she was not in a good place to build a relationship, but I kept pushing.  In fact, my friend Judi Brubaker told me she was not the right person for me, but I kept working it.  Deep down inside, my spirit told me it was not right, but I continued.  My internal pendulum of balance had swung all the way to the emotion side rather than staying in the middle between emotion and logic. These types of relationships have a name, Misappropriated Relationships.

A misappropriated relationship is the act of attempting to put someone in the wrong place in your life.  The key word in the previous sentence is “put.”  We often try to put people where we think they belong rather than allowing them to find their natural fit in our life.  Whether it is a romantic or friendship fit, we need to allow it to find its course rather than trying to steer it in a certain direction.  I can look back over my romantic relationships and identify every one that was misappropriated.  My inner fixer, insecurity and selfishness drove my acts of misappropriation.  Even though my logic told me differently, I continued trying to put the square peg in the round hole.

When I stopped attempting to steer the boat and turned it over to the good Lord and the universe, everything started falling into place. I adopted the IDC approach, “I Don’t Care.”  In my world, “I Don’t Care” means I choose not to put energy in steering or attempting to force things in my life in a certain direction. Rather, I participate in the moment instead of living in the past or worrying about the future. Remember, everything in life is all about the timing.