You know those people out
there that wanna hang out or do things with you, as long as it is convenient
for them and on their schedule. Heaven
forbid they drive to your side of town, meet you somewhere other than their
suggestion or maybe at a different time.
Their other ploy is to say yes to something then back out at the last
minute. One of my biker buddies has a
pretty direct name for them, One-way Pricks.
I used to get spun up by those types of people until I realized that I
was allowing them to spin me up by operating on their timelines and
schedules. Then one day I just
stopped.
I stopped operating on their
timeline and making the trips to their side of town. Yep, you guessed it, another boundary. I’m all about being flexible up to a point,
but when I see something becoming a one-way arrangement, I step back and go
another way. It does not mean I dislike
the people or hanging out with them. It just means I do not want to be around
that behavior. If I continue to be a
convenience to someone, then I own it, as I am enabling that behavior, not
them. Flexibility and compromise are
great tools in life, as long as they are two way; however, when the convenience
of others regularly becomes an inconvenience for you, it’s time to hit the road
in another direction.
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