Become a Better Communicator

Tips for Men to be Better Communicators With Women

1. LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN!
2. Good posture makes a difference. It conveys a real interest in what the woman wants to say. Sit upright.
3. Gestures close to the body (how a woman gestures in a normal state) gives the appearance of intimacy and sensitivity.
4. Smile and have direct eye contact. When you are interested in someone, make sure she knows it.
5. Respond and provide immediate feedback on the topics she is discussing. DO NOT interrupt or change the subject as that makes her feel like what she is saying is not important. It needs to be a dialog and not a monologue.
6. Be generous with compliments. It will make her feel good to hear them, and you will feel good for saying them.
7. Ask her about her feelings on the subject and the conversation progresses. Learn to talk about personal issues and do not be afraid to show emotion.
8. NEVER use command terms like “Do This”, “Get Me That”. It is not polite and is demeaning.
9. Do not be afraid to ask for help. Check your ego at the door.
10. Do not yell, use profanity, or release frustration at work or in public. It is embarrassing.
11. Look directly at the woman rather than from an angle or the side. Direct facial contact is so important to the impression of interest and being attentive,

Tips for Women to be Better Communicators With Men

1. Take up more space in business meetings. Spread out your papers and books. Men understand “space”.
2. Use gestures outside your comfort zone.
3. Do not let a man interrupt you. Call him out if he tries to by saying you are not finished with your conversation or something similar.
4. Apologize ONLY if you are wrong. You do not need to say, “I’m sorry” just to be polite.
5. Use direct statements when communicating with a male co-worker. Discuss what you did, when you went, etc. rather than how you feel about something.
6. Be up to date on current topics men follow: news, sports, cars, art, music, etc.
7. It’s ok to ask a man out on a date. They also need to know they are liked.
8. Leave the past in the past. Nothing in the past can be changed. It’s done.
9. Talk about your accomplishments and yourself. It lets the man know who you really are and what you do. Confidence is a turn on.
10. At the office, attempt to look at things with objectivity rather than emotion. Do not respond to any profanity unless it is directed at you at which point you put an immediate stop to it by using a firm tone and telling the man his language is unacceptable.
11. In the face of a major disagreement with a co-worker, maintain your professionalism, do not hold a grudge, and avoid emotions like crying.
12. Encourage men to open up with more free flowing conversation.
13. Slow down when you talk and avoid tag endings, which make you appear unsure of yourself. i.e. that’s a nice car, isn’t it?
14. Use strong quantifiers as they make you sound confident, factful, and less tentative. (Strong Quantifiers – Always, None, Never.) Avoid qualifiers like Kinda, sort of, etc.