Look Up…Look Down
I was at the Rodeo again last night visiting with friends. I did the Grand Entry ride again on a horse. This time was a little different for me though. As I was riding around, I found myself looking up in the stands. My view was pulled to anchor points in the stadium for me. I looked up at my field level seats to see if Lauren and Brandon were sitting down yet. I looked over at Pete & Sharon’s suite then up to Nora’s to see if anyone was there yet. I also found myself keying in on various faces in the crowd. As we were leaving the stadium, I looked up to see a son and father looking over the rail. I smiled and waved and they returned both.
Later in the evening, I found myself looking at the same anchor points but from a different angle this time. I was looking down from a suite. I looked over at my seats across the stadium to see Lauren stand up and walk up the aisle. I looked out and down toward Pete and Sharon’s suite then up and over to Nora’s. I looked out over the crowd to see them looking up at me.
When I woke up this morning, I began thinking about the view from last night. I was looking at pretty much the same locations but from two different angles, and the view was indeed different each time. It reminded me of a book I read that discussed two types of vision in relationships: monocular and binocular.
Monocular vision is our default vision when we see things our way only and tend to lose sight of the view of those in our lives. It is the “all about me” vision as I like to call it. Binocular vision is the ability to see the world from the perspective of those in your life. It is looking at the total picture from the parties involved rather than just your own. You get a better appreciation of everything going on rather than just your own view. Binocular vision is a totally different way of looking at things where you learn to appreciate and assign importance to another’s point of view. It is indeed a learned behavior.
Two of us can stand side-by-side looking at the same identical point yet both will see the same point just a little differently. That’s just the way our brain processes. My experiences, past, etc. will determine how I see the point, and the other person will do the same. When you learn to expand your vision past your own monocular vision, you will see the world in a whole new light, literally. Two of my favorite author’s, Patricia Love and Steven Stosny, sum it up pretty nicely.
“Developing the ability to experience the world through your partner’s eyes, while holding on to your own perspective, may be the single most important skill in intimate relationships.”
Rodeo Rod - Looking Around To See Something New
I was at the Rodeo again last night visiting with friends. I did the Grand Entry ride again on a horse. This time was a little different for me though. As I was riding around, I found myself looking up in the stands. My view was pulled to anchor points in the stadium for me. I looked up at my field level seats to see if Lauren and Brandon were sitting down yet. I looked over at Pete & Sharon’s suite then up to Nora’s to see if anyone was there yet. I also found myself keying in on various faces in the crowd. As we were leaving the stadium, I looked up to see a son and father looking over the rail. I smiled and waved and they returned both.
Later in the evening, I found myself looking at the same anchor points but from a different angle this time. I was looking down from a suite. I looked over at my seats across the stadium to see Lauren stand up and walk up the aisle. I looked out and down toward Pete and Sharon’s suite then up and over to Nora’s. I looked out over the crowd to see them looking up at me.
When I woke up this morning, I began thinking about the view from last night. I was looking at pretty much the same locations but from two different angles, and the view was indeed different each time. It reminded me of a book I read that discussed two types of vision in relationships: monocular and binocular.
Monocular vision is our default vision when we see things our way only and tend to lose sight of the view of those in our lives. It is the “all about me” vision as I like to call it. Binocular vision is the ability to see the world from the perspective of those in your life. It is looking at the total picture from the parties involved rather than just your own. You get a better appreciation of everything going on rather than just your own view. Binocular vision is a totally different way of looking at things where you learn to appreciate and assign importance to another’s point of view. It is indeed a learned behavior.
Two of us can stand side-by-side looking at the same identical point yet both will see the same point just a little differently. That’s just the way our brain processes. My experiences, past, etc. will determine how I see the point, and the other person will do the same. When you learn to expand your vision past your own monocular vision, you will see the world in a whole new light, literally. Two of my favorite author’s, Patricia Love and Steven Stosny, sum it up pretty nicely.
“Developing the ability to experience the world through your partner’s eyes, while holding on to your own perspective, may be the single most important skill in intimate relationships.”
Rodeo Rod - Looking Around To See Something New
No greater words were spoken regarding relationships. Great quotation. Well done!
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