Criteria
Imagine this scenario for a minute. I walk into a car dealership and announce: “I have $25,000 to spend on a car. I don’t care the model, color, or options. I just want $25,000 worth of car.” The sales person would be beaming. He would finally get to move that baby crap colored mini-van with the plaid interior that has been on the lot for seven months. What is the likelihood you would ever go into a dealership with one criterion, $25,000 to spend, and purchase a new car? I would guess zero to none. You will take time to select the color, the options, your budget, etc.
All too often I see about the same amount of thought going into the selection process for life connections as you see in the example above. We sometimes allow people to connect with us at the closest levels without knowing much about them. We’ve all done it. We’ve let that person in only to find they are toxic or an energy vampire. All they do is make us feel less than good and drain our good energy then move on. I would also say we have all been toxic or an energy vampire to someone at some point in life.
I visualize life connections like concentric circles radiating out. There is a finite amount of space at each circular level. The difference in the circular levels comes down to how the boundaries are defined. Boundaries determine the criteria. The first and most important one is the inner-circle. The inner-circle is very small much like a formal dining table. It is reserved only for those that love me without question, know me at my core, are trusted, are of the best energy, have the best spirit, and provide positive influence. They help me grow me grow on all levels, and I do the same with them. They are my most trusted and cherished connections. Goodness and love radiate from the inner-circle. I feel them and they feel me. The majority of my energy and emotional bandwidth go to them. My inner-circle is made up of family and only the closest friends.
The circles beyond the inner-circle and those people at said specific circles are defined by the boundaries. There is no other way to say it other than people have to earn the right to be connected at anyone’s inner -circle level. Allowing everyone to connect at the inner-circle level will only leave you feeling emotionally drained and tired all the time as you really are. Not everyone can be your best friend nor can you be the best friend to everyone.
How do you define your circles and who gets to be at which one? Do you have only one circle? If everyone is at your table, I contend you have a lot of unrest and turmoil in your life. The challenge with everyone being at the table is that you sometimes the good ones get blurred with the toxic ones and emotional vampires. If you feel out of sorts, take a look at your inner-circle and the criteria for those at your table.
Rodney
Imagine this scenario for a minute. I walk into a car dealership and announce: “I have $25,000 to spend on a car. I don’t care the model, color, or options. I just want $25,000 worth of car.” The sales person would be beaming. He would finally get to move that baby crap colored mini-van with the plaid interior that has been on the lot for seven months. What is the likelihood you would ever go into a dealership with one criterion, $25,000 to spend, and purchase a new car? I would guess zero to none. You will take time to select the color, the options, your budget, etc.
All too often I see about the same amount of thought going into the selection process for life connections as you see in the example above. We sometimes allow people to connect with us at the closest levels without knowing much about them. We’ve all done it. We’ve let that person in only to find they are toxic or an energy vampire. All they do is make us feel less than good and drain our good energy then move on. I would also say we have all been toxic or an energy vampire to someone at some point in life.
I visualize life connections like concentric circles radiating out. There is a finite amount of space at each circular level. The difference in the circular levels comes down to how the boundaries are defined. Boundaries determine the criteria. The first and most important one is the inner-circle. The inner-circle is very small much like a formal dining table. It is reserved only for those that love me without question, know me at my core, are trusted, are of the best energy, have the best spirit, and provide positive influence. They help me grow me grow on all levels, and I do the same with them. They are my most trusted and cherished connections. Goodness and love radiate from the inner-circle. I feel them and they feel me. The majority of my energy and emotional bandwidth go to them. My inner-circle is made up of family and only the closest friends.
The circles beyond the inner-circle and those people at said specific circles are defined by the boundaries. There is no other way to say it other than people have to earn the right to be connected at anyone’s inner -circle level. Allowing everyone to connect at the inner-circle level will only leave you feeling emotionally drained and tired all the time as you really are. Not everyone can be your best friend nor can you be the best friend to everyone.
How do you define your circles and who gets to be at which one? Do you have only one circle? If everyone is at your table, I contend you have a lot of unrest and turmoil in your life. The challenge with everyone being at the table is that you sometimes the good ones get blurred with the toxic ones and emotional vampires. If you feel out of sorts, take a look at your inner-circle and the criteria for those at your table.
Rodney
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