Well I Thought
“Well I thought you would get upset if I did not go…Well I thought you would get mad if I asked you that question…Well I thought you were doing that part of the project…Well I thought you would get upset if I told you…Well I thought you would say no…”
Those three words, well I thought, have exacted a fair amount of challenge in my life. Typically, well I thought meant I did not ask. If I did not ask, I assumed which means I did not communicate properly. Moreover, in most cases, it was an after the fact situation. Sure, I can draw conclusions and assumptions based on experiences, but since each experience in life is unique, I could be right or wrong each time. It gets back to Jamie’s words: “Get out of people’s heads and let them draw their own conclusions.”
From what I have learned in my life, I normally used those words, well I thought, when I assumed there could be conflict or was afraid of rejection. I also learned the answer could just as easily be yes and giving someone, the right of refusal means so much more than assuming or playing well I thought. So, I pose the question. Can you recall the last time you used well I thought where it had a favorable response? Rather than play the well I thought/what if game, try the latest and greatest game sweeping the world. It is called ASK!
Rodney - Ask...Ya Never Know Till You Ask
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