"F" Word
It’s not what you think folks. I’m not dropping what is commonly known as an “F” Bomb on you. The “F” word I’m writing about today is forgiveness. Forgiveness can sometimes be one of the most difficult things you can do. There are some out there that just can’t bring themselves to do it. They hold on to the bitterness and anger for years, sometimes their entire lives. It’s that convoluted thinking telling us that forgiving someone lets them off the hook or even minimizes the event or action. The hurt and anger does not allow us to release it so we hold a grudge. I know. I’ve done it.
Holding on does nothing to the offending party and does everything to us as it keeps us stuck with the crap. You know what I mean. You see someone that did you wrong, and here comes all the memories and associated feelings of anger, hurt feelings, and anxiety. Translation, we continue to ALLOW ourselves to experience the hurt.
Forgiveness is personal. Contrary to popular belief, it actually requires zero interaction with the other person. No confrontation is needed. Forgiveness takes place in our heart, head, and spirit. It is the most freeing event you can experience. I know when I’ve done it I literally felt the crap leaving me on all levels. For me, it helps to verbalize it by saying, “I’m done with this…I don’t need it anymore…you can have it…”
When was the last time you dropped the “F” Word? If you have people or situations in your life that are knocking you for a loop, maybe it’s time to say, “I’m done with this…I don’t need it anymore…you can have it…”
I learned this lesson several years ago when I shed anger and resentment and replaced it with a handshake and an offer of support to a fellow businessman that was at the starting line while I was at the finish line in last place. The end result was our sons became best friends and continue a strong friendship to this day. The whole experience fits your post to a tee.
ReplyDelete"F" everybody! -jrg