Sunday, March 4, 2012

Screaming in the Silence


A friend told me about something she read called Screaming in the Silence.  It was about a person trying so hard to communicate, but could not find the words.  I’ve been thinking about that phrase for over a week now.  I recall times being stressed and overwhelmed to the point the words were just not there.  No matter how hard I tried, I could not string the words together let alone say them.  I actually remember a conversation with someone very close to me where I had to say, “I just can’t find the words to talk right now…can we talk later?”

As I’ve learned to be better communicator, I’ve found when the words are not there, or I am in overload mode, those are indicators to stop, get quiet, and wait for it to pass.  Trying to fight to find the words or mumble through it just inflates the issue and makes it worse. Feeding that impatience monster just makes him stronger. 

If you feel you are screaming in the silence, allow yourself some time to work through whatever put you there.  It’s better to wait for the right words rather than force out the wrong ones.  

2 comments:

  1. Rod, came by for a visit and this post reminded me of the book, "The Diving Bell and the Butterfly." It's the ultimate story of communication and resolve. It's not a perfect match to your great post but it was the first thought that popped into my head.

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  2. Howdy, thanks for surfing by. I'll look the book out. It sounds interesting.

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