Comfortable

Being comfortable at home, in certain clothes or at certain place, is a good thing.   Being comfortable in a relationship is also a good thing most of the time.  Granted, you should be comfortable with your significant other; however, getting too comfortable can lead to complacency and the dreaded “L” word, laziness. We have all done it.  We go to the same places, do the same things, watch the same programs on television and even sit in the same place at home.  We stop courting, stop investing in the relationship, scale back on showing as much affection, we stop saying I love you under the guise that the other one knows after all these years, and overall, we just get lazy.  I have witnessed, and done it too, people putting more effort into their jobs or hobbies than they do into the relationship with the person they go to bed with each night.

When you hear any of the following phrases, “We always do the same thing, you never tell me you love me anymore or we don’t talk,” you should go on high alert, as those are indicators that laziness has entered the relationship. As my Dad told me years ago, “Rod, never stop courting the woman in your life…if you do, someone else will.”   Being comfortable in your relationship is a good thing as long as you stay active and engaged in the relationship.