A Piece of My Mind

“I’m gonna give them a piece of my mind.”  That saying has been around for as long as I can recall.  I know I have unloaded on people before only to feel like a complete turd after the fact.  Sure, there is some immediate satisfaction to expressing yourself when you feel like you have been wronged or hurt.   You get the venom out and feel vindicated then a short time later you start feeling “it.”  I call “it” the boomerang effect.  You throw it out there and then at some point in time, it comes right back to you. 

There have been some instances recently where I came damn close to doling out a large piece of mind.  I played out the event in my mind, wrote it in my journal, and visualized an amount of satisfaction.  Then my internal boundaries kicked in and reminded me: “Rodney, you know that saying this stuff is only going to lead to a less than favorable result for all parties.”  Therefore, I didn’t.  Yes, getting it out would have given some instant gratification, but the fallout would certainly not have been worth it.  The boomerang would have come back on me and left a trail of hurt feelings.

I am all about being expressive and communicating as long as I am expressive in a way that gets the point across without the collateral damage.  It is a matter of thinking things through before opening the mouth.  Communicating emotions is an acquired skill.  It is a matter of learning to balance the words and feelings.   Remember, once the words are out there, you cannot take them back.

Speaking your mind is a good thing.  Just learn to speak it in a way that communicates the true meaning rather than getting bopped in the head by the boomerang.