Saturday, June 29, 2013

Really? Does it Make a Difference?

Is it just me or is it rather funny about how hung up we get on the past of boyfriends/girlfriends when we are in our 20’s, 30’s and for some in their 40’s?  We feel the need to know who someone slept with, how long they dated, or why they broke up.  I know because I’ve done it.

We get all wiggy because someone has a past.  Well, grow a set of balls bitches. We all have a past.  If you hold someone’s past against them, you have your own set of issues.  Our past is our past.  We all have moments we like and moments we would change, but they are still our past.  Rather than getting caught up in the drama of a past boyfriend/girlfriend and associated experiences, wouldn’t it make more sense to get caught up in the now of he or she being with you and enjoying the time with them?

Being a little north of 50, I can tell you that it is far more important to me that I am with someone for them and they are with me for me rather than who I was with in the past.  In fact, I choose not to know as it has nothing to do with the now. This one reminds me of one of my first published pieces: “When your past controls your present, what does that say about your future?”

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