“Why should I talk to
someone…they can’t give me the answers…”
I heard that comment during a discussion about counseling and
therapy. The person making the comment
was completely right. A great therapist
does not give you the answers, as they have not lived your life. Rather, they help lead you to finding the
answers within yourself. Each of us has
our own set of issues, challenges, demons, or whatever title you wish to
attach. They, insert title, stem from all levels of relationships whether it be
parental, romantic, professional, or friendship. Encounters and experiences
also play into our stuff. Here is what I
learned through lots of counseling and therapy.
I cannot change anyone in my life or change how events played out. All I can change is me and how I deal with
and react to relationships and events.
When I’m asked how I’m doing,
my typical response is, “I’m all good.”
That does not mean I am not juggling chainsaws in my head. It just means I know what’s happening and I
am working the process. That process is
using the tools in my emotional tool kit that I learned from my counselor,
Jamie. She never gave me the answers,
but she did teach me how to find the tools I need and how to use them to work
the issues in my life.
The answers are always there
inside us. It just sometimes takes a
little help to find them.
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