I often wonder why I make some of the decisions I do. At times, I dwell on it a bit too much and
get caught up in the “what if” game.
Eckhart Tolle’ has a nice name for the “what if” game. He calls the game a mental phantom.
A mental phantom is the process of second-guessing or “what
if’ing” in hopes of finding a different answer or experiencing a different
outcome. No matter how much we replay an
event, we cannot change it, because the situation does not really exist. Meaning, it is either something about the
past or present, both of which do not exist.
All we really have is the present moment. It is not five minutes ago or five minutes
from now. It is right now, as I am typing
these very works. Here is what I have learned about second-guessing some of my
decisions. Dancing with mental phantoms
just leaves me frustrated and makes my head hurt. The best I can do is accept my decisions,
strive not to make the same mistake, and move on.
Second-guessing is nothing but a waste of time.
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