December 28th – Right Where I Need To Be
“Sometimes you just need to meet people at the place they’re at.” – Sally Hoffman
I still snicker at how the inspiration hits me. The quote above came out of an in depth conversation I was having with Sally about life and relationships, specifically mine. Having known me since the early 90’s, she has seen my Place take various shapes, expand, and sometimes implode. Sally is another one of my go to people when I need advice or have questions about me where I need an unbiased, sometimes smart-assed, but always a genuine answer.
Let me start by defining The Place according to me. The Place is simply where you are in life. Jamie calls it the levels. Joel refers to it often as our seasons in life. I see it as a combination of life experiences, age, relationships, and all that you take in and give out daily. The Place is dynamic and always changing as life is always changing around you. I think back to what my Place looked like in my 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s and each decade was different. I must say that I have seen the biggest changes in my Place in the last three plus years once I started finding answers to a lot of things about me and my Place. Now that I am into my 50’s, I believe my Place to be the best it has ever been.
I believe our respective Places follow similar paths throughout our lives, but the unique experiences determine when we arrive at said Place. I recall things my Dad said in my 40’s about things I would experience in my 50’s. He was right. I know that sometimes in my zest to help others, I tend to drop way too much knowledge about what I’ve learned from counseling, step in sometimes when I should stand down unless asked for help, Lakewood, the books and DVDs and all of my encounters. In my mind, it is indeed trying to help, but it comes across sometimes as “you push too hard sometimes, why can’t you just let things be and see what happens, I’m feeling overwhelmed with you, you are a lot to take in, or you can be intimidating.” And yes those are direct quotes from a close friend and someone I was in a relationship with. After having a conversation about those very quotes, that’s when Sally said: “Sometimes you just need to meet people at the place they’re at.”
She planted the seed in me, but it really didn’t sink in until the next day. She had just given me another sand paper moment. That little sentence of hers reminded me that I need to focus more contributing to people’s Place on their terms. It’s back to that simple word: patience.
Thank you Sally for dropping some knowledge on me.
“Sometimes you just need to meet people at the place they’re at.” – Sally Hoffman
I still snicker at how the inspiration hits me. The quote above came out of an in depth conversation I was having with Sally about life and relationships, specifically mine. Having known me since the early 90’s, she has seen my Place take various shapes, expand, and sometimes implode. Sally is another one of my go to people when I need advice or have questions about me where I need an unbiased, sometimes smart-assed, but always a genuine answer.
Let me start by defining The Place according to me. The Place is simply where you are in life. Jamie calls it the levels. Joel refers to it often as our seasons in life. I see it as a combination of life experiences, age, relationships, and all that you take in and give out daily. The Place is dynamic and always changing as life is always changing around you. I think back to what my Place looked like in my 20’s, 30’s, and 40’s and each decade was different. I must say that I have seen the biggest changes in my Place in the last three plus years once I started finding answers to a lot of things about me and my Place. Now that I am into my 50’s, I believe my Place to be the best it has ever been.
I believe our respective Places follow similar paths throughout our lives, but the unique experiences determine when we arrive at said Place. I recall things my Dad said in my 40’s about things I would experience in my 50’s. He was right. I know that sometimes in my zest to help others, I tend to drop way too much knowledge about what I’ve learned from counseling, step in sometimes when I should stand down unless asked for help, Lakewood, the books and DVDs and all of my encounters. In my mind, it is indeed trying to help, but it comes across sometimes as “you push too hard sometimes, why can’t you just let things be and see what happens, I’m feeling overwhelmed with you, you are a lot to take in, or you can be intimidating.” And yes those are direct quotes from a close friend and someone I was in a relationship with. After having a conversation about those very quotes, that’s when Sally said: “Sometimes you just need to meet people at the place they’re at.”
She planted the seed in me, but it really didn’t sink in until the next day. She had just given me another sand paper moment. That little sentence of hers reminded me that I need to focus more contributing to people’s Place on their terms. It’s back to that simple word: patience.
Thank you Sally for dropping some knowledge on me.
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