You Make Me – Fill In the Blank
You make me feel like a failure. You make me feel like a million bucks. You make me this and you make me that. Can someone really MAKE you feel a certain thing or a certain way? Sure, the actions of someone else can drive your feelings in a certain direction, but can they really MAKE us feel a certain way? I say no. Our feelings are ours. Sure, we ALLOW the words and actions of others to have an impact on us, but they do not MAKE us feel a certain way. We own that side of the equation.
There are players out there who know how to play on the emotions and feelings of others, but ultimately, we have control over our feelings. The more open and in tune you become, the better you get at smelling a player when they enter the room. Being aware is different from judging. Enhanced awareness means you are indeed relying on and trusting your feelings and judgment rather than going on pure emotion, lust, infatuation, or whatever.
A common response I get when I have conversations with people is, “You make me feel good about myself.” I really do not MAKE them, but I do speak positivity into others and give them things to think about to allow them to feel better about themselves. Yes, I have the ability cut someone to the core with my words and actions, but what good does that serve? Hurting others only hurts you too. Think about it. When we have cross moments with someone, it feels bad. Your ego may get a boost out of dressing someone down, but I’m certain that later when you think about it, you get the lousy feeling of why did I do that.
The next time you feel the “You MAKE me feel” coming up, do a little switch word game in your head to I ALLOW you to fill in the blank. Remember, your feelings are yours.
You make me feel like a failure. You make me feel like a million bucks. You make me this and you make me that. Can someone really MAKE you feel a certain thing or a certain way? Sure, the actions of someone else can drive your feelings in a certain direction, but can they really MAKE us feel a certain way? I say no. Our feelings are ours. Sure, we ALLOW the words and actions of others to have an impact on us, but they do not MAKE us feel a certain way. We own that side of the equation.
There are players out there who know how to play on the emotions and feelings of others, but ultimately, we have control over our feelings. The more open and in tune you become, the better you get at smelling a player when they enter the room. Being aware is different from judging. Enhanced awareness means you are indeed relying on and trusting your feelings and judgment rather than going on pure emotion, lust, infatuation, or whatever.
A common response I get when I have conversations with people is, “You make me feel good about myself.” I really do not MAKE them, but I do speak positivity into others and give them things to think about to allow them to feel better about themselves. Yes, I have the ability cut someone to the core with my words and actions, but what good does that serve? Hurting others only hurts you too. Think about it. When we have cross moments with someone, it feels bad. Your ego may get a boost out of dressing someone down, but I’m certain that later when you think about it, you get the lousy feeling of why did I do that.
The next time you feel the “You MAKE me feel” coming up, do a little switch word game in your head to I ALLOW you to fill in the blank. Remember, your feelings are yours.
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