Pick One

From or To

Where do you focus your energy, moving to something or someone you’re drawn to or running from something or someone?  That is not necessarily a profound statement but does merit some thought.  Think about the times where you wanted and needed to move on from someone and were being drawn in a new direction, but you still put more energy and effort into the From rather than To.  We concentrate more on what we are attempting to get out of our life rather than focusing and what is being presented to us.

The most common examples are breakups in relationships.  We know things are over, but we still do the texting and calling to make sure they are okay, tell them we miss them, ask about having a drink or dinner as “friends.”  Any counselor or relationship expert will tell you cannot be casual friends with someone you were involved with just a few weeks or even months after breaking up.  There is still too much raw emotion involved in the situation.  We have all done folks.  We convince ourselves we can go out as friends, and then we see them, here come all the emotions again.  Moving on is a bitch.  Whether it is a relationship, friendship, or a job, it’s just tough, but it is a necessary part of the grand scheme.

If something or someone feels uncomfortable or wrong, listen.  If something or someone feels comfortable or right, listen.  Overall, just learn to listen to what your spirit is telling you.  Strive to work on where you are going To rather than where you are coming From.