Sunday, January 29, 2012

A vs. The


“So you wrote “THE” book on relationships….No, I wrote “A” book on relationships…”

So why a conversation about A versus THE, you ask? Well, “THE” implies an expert on whatever the subject might be and “A” references another source.  Actually, the quote was an excerpt out of a conversation with Patrick regarding a conversation he had with lady friend regarding a man she is dating.  We both laugh often about anyone considered to be “THE” expert on relationships.  Honestly, how can anyone know everything about relationships when everyone is different?  Sure, men and women interact with similar dynamics in a relationship, but to say any two are identical is silly, in my feeble opinion. I believe we make it harder than it has to be by having preconceived notions of how it should be, carrying baggage from the past that we have not properly dealt, and hurrying things along rather than allowing things to happen.  As Dr. Henry Cloud says, “Date without expectation and you may get a nice surprise.”

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